From Resolution to Relationship
Time to come clean. What percentage of your recent Near Year’s Resolutions have you successfully achieved? If you are like most, that number is embarrassingly low. Gonna lose 30 pounds? Hit the gym five times a week? Cut caffeine consumption 50%. Eliminate fast food? Let’s applaud our resolve. But lets’ be realistic about our past outcomes. Resolution in isolation rarely yields success.
Conversely, how many healthy relationships can you quickly list? Hopefully, that number is more appealing. Before your resolutions fade into the sunset of despair and defeat, consider how to combine your intentions with your relationships.
I have found success in affiliating with like minded people. I link myself to loose knit small groups where “members” are expected to ask one another the hard questions on a regular basis. “How many times did you exercise this week”? And when the answer is short of the agreed upon goal, “what will you do differently next week to hit your goal? “ People that care enough to confront, care enough to encourage.
If you have written your New Year’s Resolutions down, go access it. If your resolutions are still in your head, open a document and begin putting together your achievement goals for 2015. Beside each resolution or goal write the name of the person you will associate with to reach your desired outcome.
The next step moves you a little further. Contact each person and ask for their support. Then ask them to check with you regularly (the bigger the goal the more frequent the contact). You will be surprised at the difference. Your personal goals have higher success rate and your relationships deepen. Don’t settle for less. You want more. You deserve more.